Magical daisies

 

  

 

Follow the daisies - magical tracks discovered on Tiree

 

What do you do when your mum disappears?

What do you do when one of the most important people in your world is slowly forgetting who you are? What do you do when you see a beloved and cherished woman disappear before your eyes? What do you do when you have a 2 year old child and a 75 year old child?

My best friend's mum has Alzheimer's.

And you cope. You hang on in there even if at times your arms are aching and your finger nails breaking as you cling to that precipice. You come together with your siblings to support each other and your dad with love and emotional and practical support. You cherish as much time as possible with your mum.  You have a giggle and laugh because you find yourself in the weirdest and most bizarre situations at times. You do all you can to stimulate and reassure your mum. You accept all that the NHS can give you and then battle some to get more. You grit your teeth when you look round that care home into which your mum will probably have to go soon. You soak up all that love and support from your nearest and dearest to fuel you through this. Most importantly you realise what is possible and what is impossible.

My friend has three children, a job and a mum with Alzheimer's. She loves her mum and is doing with her family the very best she can - I think she's great. xx

Jane Austen dress

My friend is a very talented sower - not of seeds and plants but of tying thread and material together with needle to make a thing of wonder. It's beyond my patience and skill to even contemplate such a marriage of cotton and cloth. Her latest creation is a Regency dress for her sister who has been cordially invited to a Jane Austen-inspired ball. The dress is so simple and so lovely and intricate and with toned coordinated buttons - a little nod to the 21st century. I hope her sister has an elegant and poised time.
















It led my friend and I to conjecture how incongruous and yet how wonderful it would be if after such a ball and dressed in such a dress, you were to let down those delicately coiffured curls and relax that upright 18th century dancing back and go for a kebab. The photo shot would have to be full length, showing elegant dress but with the wearer tucking greedily into the deliciously tasty kebab with preferably some chilli sauce trickling down the chin but not onto the dress - murder to shift a stain like that. Is it blasphemous to suggest such a thing?  Would it be too much to add wellington boots or even a pint of lager? I will stop.

I'm only jealous - it would be lovely to go to a Netherfield Ball, dressed in one of my friend's dresses and enjoy a step back in time.

The creator: Sonya Smyth - contact her at www.facebook.com/thefruitiques for commissions.

The Build: Week 2

The layers of dust are building up nicely.....let's hope they aren't accumulating in our lungs at the same time. A camping lifestyle has been fully embraced - not much access to the kitchen now due to the steel work going in. Relatives and friends are being just grand. And by the way putting steel work in looks damned hard work and full of potential frustrations to get it just right. A good job to throw lots of choice swear words at.

My husband has proved how good he is at squeezing the most clobber, stuff, rubbish, necessary belongings into the tightest of spaces. I have friends scouring the local area for cardboard boxes in which I can pile more necessary belongings. It's not all bad a friend asked for a cake tin the other day and miracles of miracles I was able to delve into a box and retrieve it with no trouble. Having said that coloured pencils and felt tips seem to have disappeared into the great wilderness of unnecessary things that is the front room.

The best bit though of this last week? A brick match man came to visit to advise the builder on yes you've guessed it the best match of bricks to our existing building. I am quite tickled brick pink that there is such a man whose sole job is to match you to your brick.  He knows texture, colour, size, history, where to get them, everything. Apparently our perfect brick is the Radcliff Smooth Red and lots have been arriving, providing breakfast entertainment for the children. I feel I may have lost my way in life - I could have been a brick match lady.

A wild swim

I love swimming in the open air. I don't mind if it's a lido or open air pool. I especially like wild swimming: a river, a stream, a lake or the sea. It gives you a different perspective. You see the land and the rest of the water from the inside.

On Tiree I got in the sea every day. It was mightily cold but so exhilarating. The clouds, blue sky, wildlife, the beach are seen from an angle you don't normally view them from. I didn't stay in long and I'm not the world's best swimmer but it is wondrous. It's not for everyone - I can't convince my husband even to dip a toe in the water unless it's very very hot.


 But I find it very difficult to resist the heady combination of white sands and blue sky. The water draws me in for a refreshing plunge. Even the sound is different in the sea - splashing, water lapping, bird calls all seem beautifully serene. Give it a go.

The Build: Week 1

The extension at 88 has started. Dust, dust, dust every where which as I rarely do any housework isn't much different to the norm and everything is so topsy turvy anyway there is no room to push a vac or any flat surface to swivel a duster upon.

The builder assures me that the first week is always difficult as they discover the good bits and the bad bits. The good bit: err...mmm...ahh....well.....yep...sharp in take of breath...what are the good bits? Ahh yes after 18 months in the planning the build has started and we will end up with a lovely home. Bad bit: very poor foundations to the existing single storey extension have been uncovered; a cracked drainage pipe (badly patched up by previous builder/plumber) and we are living kind of camping style before I realised we would be. I have an image of the original extension builder riding up in a Stetson having just galloped in from the American plains, playing poker in the one-horse town's saloon with our foundations as collateral. Alas he clearly lost the foundations in the card game and managed get out a town before any showdown with any local building inspector sheriffs who might query the loss of said foundations. But I had mentally prepared myself for a whole lot of palaver so am surprisingly emboldened. We are philosophical. David says 'It is as it is'.

It was my son's birthday the other day and he had to open his presents in an empty dining room and put all his cards up in his bedroom but he doesn't seem to care as there are lots of holes to peer down and he and his sister just don't know what they will find has happened in their home between the hours of 9am and 3.15pm. They will be annoyed as a big lorry carrying concrete has just parked up and they are at school. They'd think it all awesome. Oh we lead such exciting lives. Ah...must dash there is a knock on the door....need to move the car I think.

The deader the better

We went to see my Mum after we got back from Tiree. Of course she asked her grandson what had been the best bits. I wondered what he would say...perhaps the abundant white sandy beaches? The living wildlife? The sunshine? The rocks to climb on and the pools within? No - my son was in no doubt. He had found (well actually my brother's partner had found it) a sheep's skull with upper jaw in tact and that was the 'most awesomest' thing of the week. That was closely followed by another skull but tiny - possibly a hare - that was truly awesome too. Then of course there were all the dismembered crab legs and bodies (not done by us I hasten to add - just by nature and the tide) which both children were blown away with. My little girl walked 2 miles back home from the beach one day with bright orange crabs on her outstretched hand. Dead cool they were!

NB We did see some living creatures too - hares, basking sharks, seals, a buzzard, lots of sea birds, a frog - living cool they were.